The Gospel of Clayton 5:15

So I tuned into my own blog to find a deep debate going on about how women should act when a man tries to holla. This was in the "Learning to ride the bus" post. I didn't get to participate, but I thought to pull this out and make my comment. Below is one of Clay's comments on the subject. He thinks Southern girls are more polite than Northern girls. I have to say that I too have been discussing this since I've moved to D.C. And I have to represent for Southern chicks cause I'm NC born and bred.

I can't go all out and say Northern ladies are rude or mean because I don't deal with them in the same capacity as Clay and his boys. I will say that I've been told by guys that I've dated around these parts (DC) that women here are pretty demanding and rude when it comes to dating or even initial meetings. For example, I've heard that they ask for drinks, which would get you laughed at in the south. Some guys I've met are impressed when I offer to pay (for my part only, mind you) or when I try to save them a dollar or two by avoiding overpriced bullshit on a menu. That's just me putting myself in his shoes. I wouldn't waste my money on a wack date or pay $4 for a side of strawberries on my french toast (true story, I told them to keep those damn strawberries!), so why should he? While I LOVE, I mean absolutely ADORE talking shit, I think northern women are too quick to talk shit to a guy who's simply trying to give you a compliment or dares to try to get your number. Poor schmuck.

I think that the least we can do for poor losers who step to us is show them some respect, up until the point that they disrespect us. I always wish I had shut a dude down earlier or with more authority, but I hate to be that chick who made the mistake of thinking someone was trying to holla when he was only making small talk. So I wait.

Anyway, I think Clay has a valid point and I think women in the South are nicer. Although, it's all about the person doing the talking. In the south, an unmarried, educated brother with a job and no gold teeth isn't standing on every corner or asking you out. In general, I think women in the south are going to appreciate a certain type of man more than women in the north and have lower expectations when it comes to money (unless she's for sale). This could just be a matter of the size of the pond you're swimming in guys. I always joke that I'm suffering through this upsurd cost of living in DC for the love of educated penis. Cause we all know, kind of like Chris Rock says, Good-D doesn't have a job.

Another thing about being polite in the south is that we get cussed out so quickly for not responding correctly--- we quickly learn to just be nice. "You ain't gotta act like that, bitch" rolls off the tongue of ex-suiters within 10 minutes of meeting them. One minute it's love at first sight, the next, you ain't shit.

One more thing about women in the south: Why is it that every other time I say I'm from NC, dudes say "Oh you can cook then!" with wide smiles? It's like you can see biscuits and gravy dancing in their eyes. It's a myth man.. a vicious rumor that they teach southern girls how to cook in school or something. Weird. Anyway, here's the Gospel of Clayton- as Mcvay calls it:

Just take my word for it. Women and how much friendlier they are in the South has been my #2 soapbox topic for the last six months (#1 being cost-of-living/quality-of-life in.. say.. Charlotte as opposed to our nation's capitol and surrounding areas).

It is DEFINITELY a North/South thing. I don't know anything about dude at your job. I do know that while I was in school in the South I pretty much tried my hand at every chick that attracted me, unless I was in a committed relationship at the time and that wasn't very often. Of course, I lost more than I won but I never had the second thought, "What if this chick isn't interested and gives me shit as if she is offended that I stepped to her?" because that shit just didn't happen.

It wasn't until I left that area and moved northward that chicks started acting in the exact manner as was suggested above. I thought it was a "getting older" thing. Like "Damn.. Women get mean as they get older. No wonder damn near every man I meet who has been married for 5+ years tells me not to do it." Then I had the good fortune to take a trip back to Dixie and lo-and-behold.... the females were friendly or at least cordial. If they felt they were out of my league or whatever, they didn't feel the need to act like I insulted their mother and shat on the hood of their cars. It was more of a "thanks but no thanks" which is cool.

I considered that maybe it was just me but I conferred with said crew and they noticed the same thing.