I play tennis. It is fun. I can hit the ball hard. Sometimes I hit the ball softly so that I can win. Anyway, I play in a league on Monday nights and tonight there were about eight or ten of us playing. Near the end of my match, which I lost BTW, I saw a few of the other ladies waving their hands around and complaining to the water guy (I'm sure he has a more official title, but he basically tells us who to play and provides water and balls). Let's call him the tennis coordinator, that's a multipurpose title. So I couldn't wait to find out what all the fuss was about. I heard him say that he'll take a certain "lady" aside and talk to her before we play next week.
Once we finished playing, my partner and I asked the other ladies what was going on. They told us that the lady playing on the court next to ours was (gasp)
cursing! Now, I played next to her and didn't hear anything, but the ladies on the other side of her say they heard her. Miss Potty Mouth doesn't seem to be a pleasant person in general, and I don't think that our tennis games are serious enough to warrant cursing, but do I curse? Of course! I curse when I'm happy, when I'm sad, when I'm impressed, when I make mistakes, when I do something really wonderful... you get the point. There's a profane word for most occasions. But a few ladies in the league were completely offended by this other woman's profanity, so offended that they reported her to the tennis ball/water coordinator dude.
One lady explained to me that she and the others are Christians, which seems to mean that everyone else should avoid using words that aren't pre-approved by them. I actually started wondering if they heard anything that I had said while I played. I don't know what Miss Potty Mouth said exactly, but I know that she wasn't loud enough for me to hear her and that I'd be very upset if people reported me for cursing rather than just asking me not to. Now I feel like I'm in a church-sponsored tennis league. How far can people take their religious and cultural preferences? Now I will acknowledge that there are rules of sportsmanship that come into play here. And although I didn't hear Potty Mouth, I did pick up on her grumpy vibe. They say that she didn't win tonight, and I think she may just be a poor sport. Either way I'm a little torn.
I don't mind keeping my profanity to myself, I usually try to when I'm not around friends, but I'm not sure that everyone should be required to hold their tongue to make others comfortable. I just wonder how far it goes and which words are naughty. Damn should be acceptable, especially if you can't get your serves in. And I personally prefer "shit" when a wonderful return is just an inch too wide or long. I feel that "fuck" is a little strong for the level of competition that I'm at, but the Wimbleton and US Open people should be able to drop the F-bomb. If we're going to have rules, they should be flexible. That's all I'm saying.
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